Comment to a discouraged single in the church.
________, sounds like you’re one of the “broken toys” that ______’s bishop spoke of.
I know, I know, “It takes one to know one.” So be it.
There’s a lot more going on than you realize, both with yourself and with others. (More so with yourself.) But if you stick with the gospel, you’ll grow and heal, and eventually transform into the kind of person who will be more desirable. It may take some time though. Some guys don’t “wake up” (or come out of their chrysalis) until they are in their 40’s or 50’s.
But the gospel applies to everyone, single or married, happy or sad, whole or broken, (young or old, bond or free, etc.). Actually, if I read the scriptures correctly, the gospel applies even more so to the sad and broken. The Lord came to heal the sick. The church is a hospital for sinners and the spiritually wounded, not a showcase for saints.
If you live the gospel consistently and with any degree of devotion, the spiritual, psychological and emotional wounds eventually heal. And if you live the gospel, plus go to some kind of professional counselor, the psychological and emotional wounds can heal even faster.
I’m in my 50’s, and never been married, and I’m still learning what my dysfunctions are. My friends say that I’ve made noticeable improvement since I came back to church.
I firmly believe that if I hadn’t gone inactive, I would have made improvement all the sooner. But those 15 years of inactivity were spent not only spinning my wheels, and losing the time, but going backwards as well.
Single or married, DO NOT GO INACTIVE! The gospel is for EVERYONE, single or married. Don’t let the married people shame you out of the church. The church is for YOU as well as for them.
If anyone makes you feel unwelcome in church, tell them so. And report their unwelcoming behavior to the bishop, so they won’t hound any more singles out of the church.